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BDSM and Humiliation

Although I do not agree with humiliation in a vanilla relationship, mainly because it is based on abuse, be it verbal, or physical. It is also based on the male being controlling and not in control.. Any submissive or slave knows the difference.

How is it different in a D;s relationship, there are a couple of factors here. One both have an agreement going into the relationship, a controlled environment, I believe anyone who has been in the lifestyle for any length of time knows this. It is also used to remind the submissive or slave what hers or his place is.

  I am speaking form 20 years of experience, not 6 months or a year. This is something that is consensual between the two, an open agreement in there relationship, or used just during play….

 

Erotic humiliation is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context, whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another; often (but not always) in conjunction with sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity. The humiliation need not be sexual in itself; as with many other sexual activities it is the feelings derived from it which are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. It can be verbal or physical, and can be relatively private or public. Often it can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance or online. The distinction between humiliation and dominance in an activity such as erotic spanking is that the sought-after effect is primarily the humiliation; the activity is just a means to that end.

While fantasy and fascination with erotic humiliation is a prevalent part of BDSM or other sexual roleplay, relatively little has been written on it.[1] Humiliation play can however be taken to a point where it becomes emotionally or psychologically distressing to one or the other partner, especially if it is public humiliation. Erotic humiliation can become extreme enough to be considered a form of edgeplay, that some consider may best be approached with advance negotiation and use of a safeword. This is a highly subjective issue, and depends greatly on context.Image

 

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