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Why Rules

In a D’s relationship we are seeking a couple of things, first and for most a partner we are compatible with, to insure we are on the same page when it come to what we want out of the relationship, in the bedroom , and out. You become best friends. You know what each other is going to say before you speak. The submissive or slave knows what her owner is thinking, what his reaction is going to be in any scenario.

In the beginning of the relationship the two sit down, and cover what they want, what is expected, and what is wanted a year down the road.

A Dominant is seeking a submissive to fulfill his life, the communication, the control., the same kinks, his wants and needs. A dominant with the right partner is the most content person in the world.

A submissive or slave is looking for a little more in the relationship. A submissive is looking for acceptance, communication, someone who will listen, someone she can talk to about anything and not be judged, kink or not. The most important is structure, and stability within the relationship. Most submissives or slaves have suffered some type of abuse. It is very important for the dominant to be willing to spend time and learning everything about his new partner. She will tell you things she has not told her best friends, or even her parents.

Rules are implemented at first as a form of training, it is best to start out with a few, not to overwhelm, not to confuse, or set up for failure. The training process is all about positive reinforcement .

I know a dom who lives in daytona, who has like 80 rules, that is insane, you spend all your time waiting on the sub to break a rule..

Rules are meant to use as a training process, as well as protocol. Once the submissive talks hold of everything, she will find out what she has learned, she will be able to implement in everyday life.

Yesterday I posted on positions, these are not only used for training, but to give the submissive or slave, the feeling of being vulnerable and in that state of submission.

Once everything has been learned , it is important for the dominant to stay on top, to insure the rules and protocols are being followed. More so it is very important for the dominant to punish when rules are broken, which I can tell you that does not happen very often. If a submissive or slave breaks a rule, most of the time they are not getting the attention they need…

Communication..

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2 comments on “Why Rules

  1. I thought it was interesting that you mentioned most slaves/submissives having a history of abuse. This is truly your experience? Have you had a submissive without such a history?

  2. Yes Ana I have met several, who were abused at a young age, molested, even raped, by family members, friends of parents, or even raped while meeting a new Dominant.
    If you speak with other submissives, this is really not that uncommon.
    I am not sure what role this plays, but I believe it triggers something, that brings out there submission.
    A submissive or slave is like a book, not one book is the same. There are so many predators out there , this is what they are looking for. In the end the damage runs deep.
    Yes I have had a submissive that has not suffered such an experiance. I was making a statment. Speak with other submissives or slaves, you will have to earn there trust, but will open up.
    If I found a submissive, who had been through some bad things, and I felt we were on the same page, would I rule her out, no I would not, but there is a fine line that has to be walked, a lot would be on my shoulders.
    If you read my post about my last she was a cutter, who had been through some bad things, and the out come was very good, she is married and teaching now.

    Is that every case I would think not, would I want that kind of responsibilty I am not sure.

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