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BDSM and the Collar

The collar is meant to have value in a D’s relationship just as a wedding ring would have. A sign of ownership between the Dominant and Submissive or slave.

So a Dominant meets a submissive on Friday and the two of you kick it off Saturday the Dominant wants to collar you. What is wrong with this picture?

We are not talking about a weekend in Las Vegas when you have had to much to drink. We are talking about a committed relationship between two Grown adults.

How can you possibly know someone 24 hours and decide you want to put a collar on someone or you even accept a collar?

A Submissive should be very Leary of this type of dominant. He is ego driven. He is thinking with his cock and not his brain.

A collar is a sign of total ownership; a commitment between two people. For a dominant to even consider collaring a submissive should be no less than 6 months to a year. A collar is earned; it is not given. A submissive must prove they are worthy of such an honor. More so, for the submissive to accept it, the Dominant must prove he is worthy of offering his collar.

I am not going to claim to know everything. This is just my opinion. It is too bad there is no BDSM 101, a study guide, so to speak. But seriously, 1 day, a week, a month, no way. You cannot possibly know enough about each other.

The dominant sets up a training process, which with me takes between 6 months to a year. I have lived with a submissive for two years and never offered her a collar.

The amount of predators has really soared in the last 10 years or so and submissives falling prey to them. A collar offered 15 minutes after your first meeting. A new submissive would jump at the opportunity to wear a collar, mainly looking for acceptance the need to please.

A collar is sacred. It has a meaning. A purpose.

The bottom line take your time, and just because a collar is offered, if you as a submissive feel uncomfortable, then move on or express your feelings and concerns. Do not be afraid to say NO. That is your right.

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